Unwholesome Talk

Discipleship Devotional Study Guide - Character- Ephesians 4:29 - Unwholesome Words - Growing As Disciples

Discipleship Devotional Study Guide – Character- Ephesians 4:29 – Unwholesome Words – Growing As Disciples

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.        Ephesians 4:29

Your Words

This is going to be a challenge for you. What is going to be a challenge for me? Do you want to be able to build others up with your words? Is that one of the ways that you want to use me? Yes, it is. Well, I want what you want. I will do whatever you ask of me. Why will building others up with my words be such a challenge for me? I know that you already have a pretty good idea why building up others with your words will be a real challenge for you. But, I will explain it to you.

How well do you listen? Do you focus your complete attention on what others have to say to you? Do you allow yourself to become distracted? Are you thinking more about what you might say next rather than carefully listening to what others are saying to you? Do you let your mind wander on to different subjects while others are speaking to you? Lord, you know me. Listening has not been my strongest quality. I have not been a good listener. I do let my mind wander. I do think more about what I want to say than what is being said to me. I’m usually thinking about a topic that interests me more than what others are discussing. Often times, I would never be able to repeat back what has just been said to me. That’s not good. I know.

If you want to be able to build others up with your words you will need to become a good listener. This will be a challenge for me. It will be more of a challenge than you think. Why is that? You will need to become a good two-way listener if you want to be able to build others up with your words. I don’t even know what a two-way listener is. Yes, I know you don’t know what a good two-way listener is. That’s why we are having this conversation. You will need to learn to listen attentively to both the person that you are talking to and to me at the same time. As you listen to the person talking you will better understand their needs. By listening attentively to them you will be fully engaging in their life. By listening attentively to me you will know what I would like you to say to them. The words that you speak will not be your own words. The words that you will speak to build others up will come from me. I get it. Now, do you understand why this will be a real challenge to you? Yes, I do. Will you listen attentively to others? Yes, I will. Will you listen attentively to me? Yes, I will. Then I will give you the words that I want to use to build others up. Then my words will become your words. That is what I want.

Lord, no longer will I let unwholesome words linger in my mind and come out of my mouth. Help me to listen carefully to you so that I can hear wholesome words to speak to others in order to build them up according to their needs. Amen

Key Question… When have you been built up or torn down by the words of another person?

Living It Out… Allow the Holy Spirit to help you speak words that will build others up according to their needs.

Seeing It Happen… Have faith that the Holy Spirit will use your words to build others up according to their needs.

Get Ready To Share…Share with another person or your small group how the Holy Spirit has used your words to build others up.

Prayer To Bless Others… May you use your words to build others up according to their needs.

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Building Others Up According To Their Needs

The Virtuous Life - Day 213 - Ephesians 4-29-32 - Building Others Up According To Their Needs - Growing As Disciples

The Virtuous Life – Day 213 – Ephesians 4-29-32 – Building Others Up According To Their Needs – Growing As Disciples

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.  And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.  Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:29-32 (NIV)

Guard My Words

That I need to do. What do you need to do? I need to carefully guard my words. I need to make certain that no unwholesome words come out of my mouth. What will you do with your words? How will you not use your words? How will you use your words? I’m beginning to understand that my words are a tool. My words can be used to either build up or tear down. What kind of words tear down? Words of fear and doubt tear down. Words of slander, judgement, and criticism tear down. Words of frustration, argument, and anger tear down. Bitter, evil, and immoral words tear down. Arrogant and prideful words tear down. None of these kinds of words are life giving. None of these words are worthy of thinking or speaking or acting on. You are correct. All these kinds of words grieve the Holy Spirit. You have called me to think and speak and act on words that build up, words that give life to all who hear them. That is exactly right.

What kinds of words build up? Words of hope and peace and joy build up. Words of encouragement build up. Words of faith build up. Words of love build up. Words that you give me to think or speak or act on will build others up according to their needs. You will give me words to think and speak and act on that will lift others up and spur them on. Yes, I will, you can be sure of that.

Where will life giving words that build others up come from? They will come from you. They will come from your word. As your word dwells in me richly, you will give me new words to think and speak and act on. As I meditate on your word and memorize your word, you will change my heart and transform my mind. You will replace my old thoughts and words and actions with those you want me to think and speak and act on. Yes, I will, let there be no doubt about that.

One more thought. What’s that? The new life-giving words that I give to you to think and speak and act on will not only be for the building up of others, but they will also build you up as well.

Holy Spirit, I do not want any of my thoughts, or words, or actions to grieve you. I don’t want any unwholesome words to come out of my mouth. I want my words to build others up according to their needs. Help me to be kind, compassionate and forgiving. Amen

Key Question…  How are you using your words to build others up according to their needs?

Living It Out…  Make every effort to live a kind, compassionate, and forgiving life that does not grieve the Holy Spirit.

Seeing It Happen…  Have faith that the Holy Spirit will help you to live a kind, compassionate, forgiving life that does not grieve Him.

Get Ready To Share… Share with another person or your small group how your words are building others up according to their needs.

Prayer To Bless Others… Lord, I will build others up according to their needs.

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Building Others Up

Discipleship Devotional Study Guide - Promises - Day 115 - Ephesians 4:29-32 - Building Others Up - Growing As Disciples

Discipleship Devotional Study Guide – Promises – Day 115 – Ephesians 4:29-32 – Building Others Up – Growing As Disciples

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.  And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.  Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:29-32 (NIV)

Build Others Up

That is how I would like you to use me. How would you like me to use you? I would like to become like you. I would like to think and speak and act like you. I would like to follow your example. I would like to be kind and compassionate and forgiving towards others just as you have been to me. I would like all my thoughts and words and actions to build others up according to their needs. To think and speak and act like you, I will certainly need your help. How will you need my help? I will need you to change my heart and transform my mind. I will need you to mold and shape my life. I will need you to make me into the person you want me to become. I need you to remove any unhealthy and unwholesome thoughts, or words or actions from within me. Is this your prayer? Is this your desire? Is this your passionate hope? Yes, I am praying and asking you to do this work within me. This is no half-hearted, faint request on my part. All my heart and mind and soul are in this prayer request. Why is this prayer so important to you? I know that this is your purpose and plan for my life. I know that you want me to become like you. I know that you want me to think and speak and act like you. You want me to be a bright light in the world. You want me to be a bold witness for you in the darkness of this life. The only way that I will ever be able to bear fruit for your kingdom or bring glory to your name is if you do this work in and through me. So, I believe that I want what you want. So, my heart and mind and life are open to you. Do your work in me. Have your way with me. Help me to build others up by all my thoughts and words and actions. Yes, I will do this work in you. You will be a bold and bright witness for me in the world. You will bear an abundance of fruit for my kingdom and bring glory to my name because I will be working in and through you every day as you love and follow and serve me.  

Lord, I will follow your example. I will be kind and compassionate and forgiving to others. I will allow you to make me to be like you. Use all the thoughts of my mind, words of my mouth and the deeds of my life to build others up according to their needs. Amen

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Building Others Up

Discipleship Devotional Study Guide - Becoming Like Christ - Day 101 - Ephesians 4:29-32 - Building Others Up - Growing As Disciples

Discipleship Devotional Study Guide – Becoming Like Christ – Day 101 – Ephesians 4:29-32 – Building Others Up – Growing As Disciples

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:29-32 (NIV)

Words Have Power

I understand that my words have power. What kind of power do your words have? My words have the power to tear others down or my words have the power to build others up. How do you know that to be true? I have been torn down by words. I have been built up by words. Harmful words can deliver a sting that lasts a lifetime. Sometimes, it is nearly impossible to unhear words that have been painful and damaging. This sound like the voice of experience. Yes, it is. Are you having a difficult time unhearing words that have torn you down? Yes, I am. Let me be clear, I have forgiven the people that have spoken damaging words to me. I am also trying to unhear what has been said to me. I am also trying to let go, forget and move on from painful words that have been spoken to me. Even so, occasionally memories of destructive and damaging words still pop into in my mind when something triggers their memory. I think you are the only one that can heal my memory of painful and damaging words that have been spoken to me. Yes, I am. Yes, I can. Yes, I will. For that I am very thankful. That is good.

Based on your experience with destructive and damaging words, what have you learned? I would much rather be a person who speaks words that build others up. I don’t ever want to speak words that will tear others down. That’s good. What else? Damaging and destructive words can be thoughtlessly and carelessly spoken without any evil intent. Some of the most painful words that I have ever heard were spoken more as a joke than as damaging and destructive attack. The offending person would probably not even remember the hurtful words that they spoke to me. They might even be shocked to learn that I have remembered them years later. So, what does that tell you? I need to be very careful about the words that come out of my mouth. I need to carefully consider the power of my words. Yes, you do.

What do you hope your words will accomplish? I want to speak words that will build others up. I want to speak life-giving words that will encourage others. I want to speak timely words that will positively help others, according to their need. How will you be able to speak these kinds of words? Not without your help, that is for sure. Will you ask me to help you to speak life-giving, encouraging words? Will you come to rely on my help? Yes, I will. Then I will give you words to speak so that others can be built up, according to their needs. Thank you, Lord. 

Lord, I want to follow your example. I want to live the life you lived. I want to think and speak and act towards others, just as you would. I don’t want to grieve the Holy Spirit within me. Help me to use my words to build others up according to their needs. Amen

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